There’s Good News for Couples Who Smoke Weed Together
Teens in their parents’ basements, gaggles of friends at music festivals, the stressed-out worker alone in their apartment вЂ” smoking weed has now extended to seemingly limitless environments, as the drug gains more and more acceptance and takes on an added sheen of medicinal respectability.
But marijuana’s increasingly widespread use isn’t limited to solo acts. Turns out that partners who are both inclined to light up may find weed brings with it several relationship benefits. While companies race to find theВ next ViagraВ and singles turn to alcohol to act as a social lubricant, the ideal substance to help our connections along might be sitting right in front of us.
1. Weed can help couples open up emotionally.
Some users report that smoking can help them lowerВ their guard and be open to their partner’s perspective.
“I find that when emotions get heated and during arguments, a weed break . gives me a chance to gain a different perspective on where they’re coming from,” Christopher, a 32-year-old Brooklyn resident, told MicВ of his long-term relationship with Wendy, 27.
“I’ve definitely had patients tell me that when they smoke they feel more open emotionally,” Dr. Julie Holland, editor of The Pot Book: A Complete Guide to Cannabis, told Mic. “If two people have ingested cannabis, they may move away from this emotional ledge and into what they’re really feeling.”В
That emotional openness may be due to the THC in marijuana, the high-inducing element.В Studies have shown that the THC from weedВ attaches to our cannabinoid receptorsВ and can interact with our emotional processing вЂ” an action that could trickle down into your interactions with those around you.
2. Just a bit of weed can alleviate anxiety.
Plenty of people say weed helps calm them down, and there’s a good reason why. Our bodies and brains contain an enzyme called FAAH (fatty acid amide hydrolase), which breaks down anandamide, anВ endocannabinoid that’s been called the “bliss molecule”. If you have more anandamide breaking down, Holland says, “you’re going to be more anxious.” CBD, an element of marijuana, suppresses FAAH, which means less anandamide breakdown вЂ” and possibly more “bliss.”
While the THC in marijuana can lead to paranoia, Dr. Holland says that the CBD in marijuana can be useful in the treatment of anxiety. That can be crucial for partners in a relationship, as stress and anxietyВ can lead toВ conflictВ andВ even reduce sex drive. Speaking of which.
3. Your sex life may thank you.
As one woman toldВ theВ Cut last year, “Smoking weed has always been awesome for my sex life. It makes orgasm much easier.”В
It doesn’t affect everyone, but marijuana can work wonders in the bedroom for some people. “I feel, like, a lot more able to lose yourself in the moment, spend less time thinking about am I doing this right, spend less time being body-conscious and just be amorous. You’re a more sensual being вЂ” as long as you don’t freak out,” Christopher told Mic. В
Being able to lose yourself and calm down is key for sex, where someone’s self-consciousness and insecurity can prevent real, honest intimacy. As Wendy toldВ Mic, “I loveВ Granddaddy Purp, which I discovered while dating Christopher, as it’s helped me relax and enjoy sex, whereas in the past I’ve had a lot of anxiety surrounding it.”
Marijuana has also been shown to have actual physical effects on sex. As Fusion reported, “Participants in [a series of 1970s and 1980s] studies reported enhanced touch, heightened intimacy, stronger orgasms and better sex in general.”В
4. Weed is linked to lower rates of domestic violence.
AsВ MicВ previouslyВ reported, a 2014 study in the journal Psychology of Addictive Behaviors found a link between couples that smoke marijuana together and lower rates of domestic violence. The study, spanning the course of nine years and surveying 634 couples, doesn’t pin down quite how the correlation works. But as far as substances contributing to domestic violence go, it is noteworthy that marijuana doesn’t come close to the negative effect of, say,В alcoholВ in leading to partner harm.
5. Smoking together means bonding over a shared interest.
“Having dated someone who smokes and doesn’t smoke, there is a bonding that occurs [when you smoke], the same way that people bond over drinks,” Christopher told Mic.В
Couples with shared interests who continue to go out and have fun together stayed happiest and together longest. As Mic reported, couples that continue to pursue activities together report higher levels of satisfaction and attraction. According to an Open University studyВ in 2013, having shared interests is seen as a “key connector in the couple relationship.”
Lighting up together might just be the most enjoyable connector you have.
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Why Couples Are Turning to Marijuana for Happy and Healthy Relationships
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Harvard’s Grant and Glueck study has tracked the physical and emotional well-being of groups of men over 75 years. The research showed something maybe obvious and interesting: Good and healthy relationships are the key to happiness.
What does it take to have a healthy and happy relationship? Many factors go into keeping a relationship thriving, but with the mass legalization of cannabis and couples’ access to weedy products, it seems that pot could me a major key to relationship bliss.
If you aren’t down on the weed-love train yet, you might want to give it a go. Informal KINDLAND research indicates that people who are consuming cannabis swear that it makes their relationships happier, stronger, and healthier than without it. Here’s how:
You’ll have better sex.
Studies have shown that marijuana can heighten sexual pleasure, and who doesn’t want that, right? Great sex is a great indicator of a great relationship. Why not try it out, or at least get your hands dirty on some of those cannabis pleasure products?
And smoke a J together after sex if you want to keep your intimate senses heightened and/or feel the ultimate post-load relaxation. If the whole point of sex with your best lover is to make you feel wonderful, keep that feeling going. Hey, extending feelings of intimate bonding will only make you happier, and, well, healthier.
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“The only reason I smoke weed is so I can have sex with my boyfriend. It blows my mind.” —Anonymous on Whisper
“Weed is a HUGE factor in relationships, for me at least. I recently began dating a woman who is as down as I am, if not more-so, with weed. Aside from being a shared interest, smoking together has been a way to spend quality time, we’ve totally worked it into our sex life, which was tight. And if we’re in an argument, and one of us starts to smoke something, the fight usually ends pretty quickly. Whereas previous girlfriends have been less down with my weed habit, and it’s even been a source of disagreement.” —Ben Karris, 27, KINDLAND Editor
You’ll fight less.
Smoking weed helps people forget about the small stuff, and it’s a lot easier not to sweat the little things that might, if sweated, cause you to pick a fight. Weed’s anti-anxiety properties can be key in allowing couples to focus on what matters: Having fun together.
“If my partner is having a stressful day and he smokes just the right amount, he’s able to unwind and enjoy some chill, quality time with me. Even if that means we are watching a movie or taking a long stroll, he’s not thinking about work, or traffic, or money—he’s thinking about me and the thing we are doing in the moment, and it’s great.” —Crissy, 32, KINDLAND Managing Editor
“Weed has been the single most helpful element in my relationship. We’re getting married soon, because we both love to get high and no longer sweat the small stuff. Cannabis treats my PTSD, and his anxiety. Together we open up and get through obstacles with communication and honesty—sometimes weird, loquacious honesty. The fact that we consume cannabis and not alcohol (not to knock it, but I’m knocking it) is really the clincher. Alcohol takes you out of yourself and makes you act like someone else. Weed takes you into a journey through your own mind where you find how you really feel. If we’re bitchy, we have a sesh. If we are stuck in sex patterns, we smoke and make love for hours, until he says things like, “I feel like I’m breathing through you.” It’s truly magical. We’re connected like molecules, constantly moving forward and working together to stay sane, happy, and honest. Weed is love, and it is most certainly the thing that keeps us tied together so strongly.” —Adrienne, 32, Cannabis Activist and Writer
You’ll enjoy your time together.
You can snuggle in a cozy hotbox zone. You can eat edibles and watch bad movies on your couch. You can have amazing sex. You can hotbox your mom’s car and not get caught. You can be each other’s spirit animals. You can worry less. You can simply relax enough to enjoy pure happiness together. And that might just make both of you a lot happier and better to be around. Thanks, weed!
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“My boyfriend and I smoke together on the daily. Our relationship is solid as a rock, and I’ve never experienced this kind of love. Smoke together, stay together.” —Anonymous on Whisper
You might be more active.
Sure, typical old-school-stoner logic says smoking weed will knock you on your ass, but did you know that now, there are so many different (and totally available) strains and products that can make you more focused and even more energetic? Plus, if you ditch the nightly wine for a joint, you won’t wake up pissy, and groggy, and hungover. Think of how much more cool shit you and your partner could do if you were living a hangover-free life? Yeah, that’s a lot of stuff.
You’ll make a deeper connection.
Couples who use cannabis in their everyday life swear their lives are a lot easier and better. That’s because marijuana is proven to activate your endocannabinoid system, which controls your appetite, pain-sensation, mood, and memory. If you find your perfect product or dose, weed can really help you connect with your partner using all of your senses.
“Currently single, but I definitely had to initiate a ‘no smoking/consuming during a break up’ years ago. I kept finding myself far too happy/calm when interacting with my ex and later revisited interactions and realized I should’ve been outraged rather than nonchalant. I suppose cannabis helps relationships. It can give you that perfect amount of f*cks to give. For me, that tends to be 0 with the right strain. I’ve also noticed certain strains can up your touchy-feely factor, which definitely helps lubricate any romantic situation. I will say, though, that the wrong variety will make me want to slap my best friend; so there’s that if that’s your thing.” —Sunshine Lencho, Lawyer and Cannabis Activist
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Why Couples Are Turning to Marijuana for Happy and Healthy Relationships This article originally appeared on KINDLAND Harvard’s Grant and Glueck study has tracked the physical and emotional