I Had Stoned Sex For The First Time And It Totally Spoiled Me For The Future
I love wine. There’s nothing like sipping red wine and getting into the sexual
. Wine is liquid foreplay magic. ItВ creeps up on you slowly but steadily; itВ turns you into the lustful vixen you never imagined you could be.
But drunk sex is worlds different from stoned sex.
Drunk sex is wild and rowdy and uninhibited. Don’t get me wrong — it’s amazing. But you can’t deny that there’s a time and place for it.
Stoned sex, as I found out during my first time having it, is more sensual than sexual. All of your senses are on fire. Your arms and legs are loose like jelly. Your tongue feels like it could fold in any direction (and if it can’t, you’re going to try to make it anyway).
Stoned sex, much like a joint, is LIT AF. So I’m going to tell youВ about the first time I did it.
Disclaimer: I used to smoke a lot in college, and this piece is low-key going to sound like I’m trying to get you all to convert to “Marijuana-ism,” my tried-and-true religion. But that isn’t what I’m trying to do. This was my personal experience, and you are welcome to take from it what you want. It’s safe to say I’m a proponent of smoking weed in safe quantities and trying pretty much anything and everything there is to try.
To have high sex the right way, I neededВ to get in the zone. Unlike drunk sex, high sex requires a bit of preparation, including candle-lighting and music-playing. It’s a ritual. I opted for the “Chilled R&B” Spotify station for my weed-propelled sex sesh.
The day of my adventure, my friend had rolled me a spliff (a combination of tobacco and weed). I knew it’d be easier on my bodyВ and mind, so I decided to go with that.
That night, my bang buddy and I sat on my bed by the window, puffing away. He had never had sex high before either, so we were both giddy as elementary school kids. Seeing as I wasВ the senior stoner in the room, I guided him.
“You know how we just sort of have this rhythm?” I said, making what I thought to be appropriate hand gestures. (And we do — we’ve got a great rhythm). “Let’s do that, but slow it down by, like, 75 percent.”
He nodded his head in a daze. He was high.
Straddling him, I began to kiss him. This part — the foreplay — often quickly turns into a contest to see who can rip whose clothes off first without actually ripping them in half, but this time there was no contest. This time, each kiss felt like a mini-lifetime. It felt good.
I slipped my hands under the sleeves of his T-shirt and ran them up and down his arms. I’d never noticed before how nice his arms felt. Sure, I’d seen his biceps poking out of his shirt and I could appreciate the aesthetic, but I’d never really appreciated what each one of those perfectly sculptedВ lumpsВ felt like. His sharp, strong muscles sunk into the squishiness of my palms. Instead of fooling around with his body as if it were one entity, I attended to each limb and muscle, the way I would attend to a puzzle.
No detail went unnoticed. I was immediately hooked.В Every inch of him was worth exploring. His skin on my skin felt like being wrapped in a hug that I never wanted to end.
Eventually, after spending a solid 30 minutes as the stoned, female Christopher Columbus, we got into the good stuff. I’ll let your imagination take it from here.
Regular sex — given that there’s a healthy level of sexual attraction — can start and end pretty quickly. (Hey, I get it. We’re only human). But stoned sexВ is all about living in the now. It lasts and lasts.
By the end, he wasn’t dead. His eyes were full of life. He looked like he had just tasted chocolate for the very first time, and this smile crept up on his face and stretched from one ear all the way to the other. He kissed me what seemed like a thousand times in a row, and I could hear each kiss saying, “Thank you!” (In my mind, I said, “You’re welcome!”)В My body felt like it was floating on air.
Ladies and gents, that’s the mysterious power of really, really good pot: It doesn’t distort reality. It brings you even closer to the good parts of life.В I had just seduced a man with my body AND marijuana. I felt pretty damn accomplished.
I will say that both our mouths got pretty dry from all that cotton-mouthed kissing. IfВ you decide to embark on a marijuana love-making journey of your own, you will fall victim to desert-mouth. But that’s OK. It’s one of the small pitfalls of smoking a plant before doing the dirty, and it isn’t enough to make the whole experience unworthy of trying.
Stoned sex has completely spoiled me, and I’ll tell you why. Life is so fast-paced. There’s always way too much going on at once and not enough time to soak it all up. I never get a moment to just stop and appreciate all that’s happening around me, whether it’s smiles from strangers, the style inspo in crowds of people or the way the sun feels on my back as I stroll down the sidewalk to work.
Sex is one of those things where each moment and milli-moment should count. So from here on out, I’m definitely going to slow down my sexy time to live it up.
I love wine. There’s nothing like sipping red wine and getting into the sexual ~groove~. Wine is liquid foreplay magic. ItВ creeps up on you slowly but steadily; itВ turns you into the lustful vixen you never imagined you could be. But drunk sex isвЂ¦
How to Have Great Sex While High
A professional walks us through the highs and lows of smoking up before sex.
Indulgences tend to pair well, so we shouldn’t have been surprised by a study confirming what proponents of mixing marijuana and sex have long claimed: that smoking weed can enhance your sex life. Now that rigorous scientific data supports the idea that high sex is empirically smoking, the question is, how do you have great sex while high?
First off, credit for this very fun finding goes to Dr. Michael Eisenberg, an assistant professor of urology at Stanford University. Eisenberg sees a lot of different patients for a lot of different reasons, but a common reason for a trip to his office revolves around problems pertaining to the bedroom. So common, in fact, that he decided to take a more clinical look into things. He gathered data from the U.S. government’s National Survey of Family Growth and analyzed information comparing how often individuals had sex with how often they partook in other activities. To his surprise, he found the more people smoked marijuana, the more success they had in the bedroom.
A previous survey conducted by Psychology Today found that marijuana does indeed act as an aphrodisiac among users — a finding that’s been supported by separate studies since. A majority of respondents said smoking weed before sex helps enhance the experience. Of course, that’s not always the case. A minority of participants said smoking kills their libido. Others said it depends on the dose, the strain, as well as, their mood.
That said, the majority of folks who like sex and like smoking weed, seem to enjoy bringing the two together. Folks like Jeff Dillon, who, earlier this year, founded Xblaze, the world’s first and only 420-friendly adult film studio.
“Most people can use cannabis to enhance their sexual experience,” he tells Fatherly. According to Dillon, smoking before sex can increase sensitivity, and help deliver more intense orgasms. Plus, he says, smoking weed often helps reduce anxiety, a major contributor to erectile dysfunction. Side-stepping that symptom brings you one step closer to lasting longer in bed, and hey, that’s something to reach for.
Still, there are some things the casual marijuana user should know before having sex while high. Here’s what to know.
Pick the Right Strain of Weed for Stoned Sex
Certain strains of marijuana are more likely to cater to sex than others. Some tend to put you in a more cerebral mood; others are designed to enhance physical sensations. Figure out which one primes you for sex best (before the big night), and go from there. With that, Dillon says users typically gravitate toward sativa products because they can help increase sensitivity, lift mood, and intensify orgasm. Though, he says, no two people react alike. “Everyone responds differently to different cannabinoids, so what works for one person might not work for another,” he cautions. Don’t feel pressured to match your partner’s smoking experience. Do what feels best for you.
Don’t Experiment With Weed the Night of
It’s important to get acquainted with your high before jumping into sex. Try experimenting with different strains and different doses in the days before. “Don’t experiment with a product the night of your sexual experience,” says Dillon. “You should know beforehand how your body will respond to a particular product.”
Be Careful With Edibles
Edibles are a fun way to get high. They taste good, and they allow you to dodge the risk of getting caught in a coughing fit. Plus, they take smoke and smell out of the equation, which can be a perk if you have kids sleeping around the corner (vape pens are also a good way to get an odorless high). But, they do come with their own set of drawbacks. It’s harder to measure the amount of THC you’re consuming with edibles. They also take a while to kick in. “Take a small dose and see how your body responds before taking more,” Dillon suggests.
Use (Lots Of) Lube
“Cotton mouth” refers to the feeling of dryness that can smoking can induce. That’s because THC, the active ingredient in marijuana, can actually block the glands that produce saliva. Of course, that symptom can usually be remedied with a tall glass of water. But smoking can also cause other areas to dry up, and that doesn’t exactly cater to good sex. “Cotton vagina,” as it turns out, is also very much of a real thing. Fortunately, as Dillon reminds us, there are a lot of lubes on the market. Make sure to have one handy. And, hey, if you want to keep with the theme of the evening, there are also a variety of weed-infused intimacy products to choose from.
Marijuana spurs creativity. And if that leads you to explore the most random sex positions you never knew existed, embrace it. Try new things that you and your partner are comfortable with. Don’t be afraid to voice your thoughts too. Let them know what they are doing right and how they can enhance it.
Don’t Get Too High for High Sex
“Less is more,” says Dillon. “You want to enhance the moment. You don’t want to consume so much it takes you out of the mood,” he adds. Remember, getting high is a gradual process. If you rush the process, you may end up getting more stoned than you want. So start small, and go slow. “Save going into a weed coma for the movies,” says Dillon.
Marijuana is proven to enhance sex. But there are, of course, some things you need to know before mixing cannabis and sex. Here's what everyone should know about having great sex while high.